How to stop being Jealous in Relationships

 Jealousy is the fear of losing your partner or your relationship. When fear lessens, jealousy also leaves the mind. Jealousy is that part of everyone’s life that is often caused without reason.

Your partner may have cheated on you in the past and so everything he says or does seems suspicious. Imaginary threats or cheating scenes look real and we feel disturbed by the presence of a certain new person in our partner’s life.

Some people go to the extent of protecting their partners from the public eyes. They would not let their girls to sit beside a man or talk to a male colleague or friend. Many women just can’t accept any other female in their partner’s life. They would keep a check on phone calls, messages and even friends.

This is nothing but the fear of losing the partner and thereby the relationship with him. Actions as a result of jealousy are often done unintentionally and unknowingly. We do not realize what wrong we are doing while trying to hold back our partners.

How to stop being jealous in our most precious relationship? Here are a few tips to overcome your jealousy.

 1.Have trust in your partner, believe him: Jealousy often provokes us to suspect our own partner. Stop doing that. If he says he is in office, you must believe him. Constant questioning will force him to make a distance with you. Believing him would need some time. You may initially suspect him because it’s your habit but eventually you will get used to the idea of trusting your mate.

 2.Stop finding reason in why he/she loves you: You must stop asking yourself why somebody so good looking, rich, handsome, fairer, educated, intelligent….likes you. Do not compare yourself with your mate. Just accept that there are people better than you but they do not have the ‘quality’ your partner has possibly found in you. And this makes him love you and not others.

 3.Be prepared to lose your partner: Yes it may sound weird and harsh but you must seriously prepare yourself to live a life without him/her.

There are people who have high self-esteem and they hate to share anything they have, not even humans. Such people dislike their partners socializing or giving smile to the girl at the bar. Such people cannot make your life better. Instead they would always trouble you with their acts. You realize this only after you have spent some time with them in a relationship. So you should be prepared to lose them unless you want to live with their tantrums.

Imagine yourself living without your partner. And do not imagine the worse, but the best for you. Imagine how comfortably you are living without your partner and you would find it easy to part ways with your partner.

 4.Do not flirt around: Do not try to make your partner jealous by flirting with the girl at the bar or with the guy at the grocery store. Telling your partner how somebody is better than him/her in all or some aspects will not make you or him/her feel any better. Infact it may back fire when your partner starts doing the same. He/she may simply say, “You were always flirting around…why are you blaming me now for the break-up…” So better not use flirting as a tool to gain attention or more love.

 5.Use your imagination to create positive thoughts: Imaginary thoughts about your partner cheating on you or she having an intimate dance with her colleague must be dropped. Adopt the “Think Positive” approach in your relationship. Think about a bright future in which you and your partner are very happy. Do not suspect everything he says and does. If he comes late from office, do not start thinking about any after office coffee with a female friend or if he goes to office on weekends, do not start questioning him about his intentions. Believe him to be with him always. Do not confuse your own self with imaginations and realities.

 6.Give your partner some liberty: Let your partner have frequent breaks from you. If he wants to have a weekend party with friends, you must not stop him from doing so. Trapping him inside house will increase his desire to go out. If you give him liberty to be with friends and love him with all your heart and soul, he will most likely miss you when out with friends.

 Let him chat with his sexy colleague and just bear in your mind that your partner will not find her as attractive as you are thinking.” Keep away all negative thoughts while he is out to party with friends or colleagues. It will bring trouble to you and not him.

 7.Feel calm and Relaxed: Always stay relaxed and calm as it has a strong effect on your thoughts. When relaxed and calm, you will not have negative thoughts, you will not feel jealous. Meditate to keep yourself calm. Close your eyes and think about all those moments with your partner that made you feel how much he loves you. Think about the time to come and how both of you can make it pleasurable.