How to stop being Jealous in Relationships
Jealousy is the fear of losing your partner or your relationship. When fear lessens, jealousy also leaves the mind. Jealousy is that part of everyone’s life that is often caused without reason.
Your partner may have cheated on you in the past and so everything he says or does seems suspicious. Imaginary threats or cheating scenes look real and we feel disturbed by the presence of a certain new person in our partner’s life.
Some people go to the extent of protecting their partners from the public eyes. They would not let their girls to sit beside a man or talk to a male colleague or friend. Many women just can’t accept any other female in their partner’s life. They would keep a check on phone calls, messages and even friends.
This is nothing but the fear of losing the partner and thereby the relationship with him. Actions as a result of jealousy are often done unintentionally and unknowingly. We do not realize what wrong we are doing while trying to hold back our partners.
How to stop being jealous in our most precious relationship? Here are a few tips to overcome your jealousy.
1.Have trust in your partner, believe him: Jealousy often provokes us to suspect our own partner. Stop doing that. If he says he is in office, you must believe him. Constant questioning will force him to make a distance with you. Believing him would need some time. You may initially suspect him because it’s your habit but eventually you will get used to the idea of trusting your mate.
2.Stop finding reason in why he/she loves you: You must stop asking yourself why somebody so good looking, rich, handsome, fairer, educated, intelligent….likes you. Do not compare yourself with your mate. Just accept that there are people better than you but they do not have the ‘quality’ your partner has possibly found in you. And this makes him love you and not others.
There are people who have high self-esteem and they hate to share anything they have, not even humans. Such people dislike their partners socializing or giving smile to the girl at the bar. Such people cannot make your life better. Instead they would always trouble you with their acts. You realize this only after you have spent some time with them in a relationship. So you should be prepared to lose them unless you want to live with their tantrums.
Imagine yourself living without your partner. And do not imagine the worse, but the best for you. Imagine how comfortably you are living without your partner and you would find it easy to part ways with your partner.
4.Do not flirt around: Do not try to make your partner jealous by flirting with the girl at the bar or with the guy at the grocery store. Telling your partner how somebody is better than him/her in all or some aspects will not make you or him/her feel any better. Infact it may back fire when your partner starts doing the same. He/she may simply say, “You were always flirting around…why are you blaming me now for the break-up…” So better not use flirting as a tool to gain attention or more love.