How Can I Find a Boyfriend?

This question seems to becoming rather common these days which is surprising given the more liberal outlook of contemporary women. This article is an honest attempt to address some of the typical challenges faced by women who want to find a boyfriend but haven’t met success…so far.

How to find a boyfriend since guys run away when I start asking questions? Finding a boyfriend becomes more difficult if the wrong sort of vibe is exuded by the lady. This includes very strong marital vibes. If you too keep talking about marriage and kids at the very outset of meeting a new guy, chances are that you are not going to make many boyfriends, and surely, not easily. To find a boyfriend, you need to have a more relaxed attitude. You might be one of those girls for whom knowing his true intentions is rather important but you cannot bring-up such serious topics when you are just getting to know somebody. Questions involving kids can easily scare-off the most confident of men. Just try to be his girlfriend first before trying to dig into his psyche.

How do I find a new boyfriend when most guys find my conversations boring?
This is a common mistake committed by many girls, i.e. they tend to make the conversation entirely about themselves. Keeping the conversation one-sided means that he is going to lose interest in you—yes, guys are supposed to listen to women and girls are expected to talk a lot. But remember, he hasn’t become your boyfriend yet. Unless your dating relationship is put in motion, you are just two individuals trying to get to know each other. Therefore, allow him to share things from his life too. Don’t keep the conversations routed towards typically girly stuff that is sure to drive any man crazy. Give him the chance to express his opinion too.

How to find a good boyfriend when men don’t want to talk about past relationships?
This is more about how you are handling the subject of past relationships rather than assuming that all men tend to run away from discussions about their Ex(s). Try to evaluate the results that emerge when you usually bring-up such subjects during the conversation. If you have been asking this question regularly to male friends or colleagues, you have probably pushed away some good dating prospects just by presenting yourself as being too nosy or too obsessive about someone else’ dating history. Similarly, men don’t like women who tend to brag about their ex-boyfriend(s).

Every man has a certain degree of ego and it gets easily hurt when another man, particularly someone you have dated before, is put on a pedestal. Simply forget about such topics unless you feel that the boyfriend vibes have become rather strong and you guys are actually ready for dating.

Help me find me a boyfriend since most men cannot stand my opinions!
Maybe, the problem doesn’t lie in men being too proud but you being too judgmental. Everybody today feels a bit stressed and is trying hard to make his or her dreams come true. In between, dating comes across as the real stress-buster that helps us deal with life. In such a scenario, nobody wants to meet someone who keeps judging things at the very start. So, try to control the opinionating aspect of your personality and allow the guy to at least explain himself before you start presenting your conclusions.

-- Anubhav Kapoor